Sunday, October 17, 2010

Feelings

Right now I'm feeling....Weird. For instance, I miss her, but at the same time I'm just kind of numb. Like I almost WANT to miss her but my emotions won't let me, so it's a definite conflict of interests. I've never felt like this really. I was with two girls before my ex girlfriend who both committed suicide within three years of each other, so my emotions were already tore to shreds before this happened.

I just kind of think my emotions are gone. I can feel the fact that I want to feel something, I want to cry or shout or be upset...I just can't. I took a few sleeping pills last night at about 4:30 am and woke up at 9:30 am...So not only are my emotions fucked, my body is rejecting everything. I'm not hungry, I can't drink anything, I don't want to do anything. I can't say if I want her back or not. I'm not sure myself. She hurt me really bad with what she did last night, and she never gave me a reason why she left. I think it might be for another guy, but she kept telling me it's not. Although she probably wouldn't tell me either way so I don't know. Sorry if this isn't the kind of stuff you guys wanted to see on my blog, I just need to vent somewhere. I have no one else to talk to. I'm thinking of setting up something with a therapist.

Has anyone had any success in the past from talking to a therapist about relationship troubles? Or do they just tell you to find another "fish in the sea" blah blah?

46 comments:

  1. id go with a therapist. they def help.

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  2. you dont need a therapist
    we're here for you

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  3. i understand how you feel right now. eventually you either do two things: go back to her and say you miss her more than anything or learn to move on.. can be a 50/50 shot

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  4. Going through a breakup is very similar to going through the grieving process. The dysphoria you're feeling is natural -- trust me, I've been there.

    Find something you can enjoy. Friends. Video games. Anything that you can use to distract yourself with when the dull ache starts to overwhelm. You'll be dealing with the pain for a while, that's life. That's how you know the relationship meant something to you.

    Learn from it and make the next one count.

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  5. i know how ya feel man the same stuff has happened to me. if its meant to be, then destiny will find a way to make it work, if not, life goes on. its hard, but it's life

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  6. Yeah, I've been very emotionally confused the last little while. It's bad sometimes.

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  7. i know how that feels bro... just hang in there no worries

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  8. Things will get better bro just hang in there

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  9. Please express your feeling as best you can, don't bottle yourself up, you will feel better

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  10. i think it's better to read some phycological books insted of going to a therapist

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  11. Youre in a schock I'd say. Just wait until you get things sorted in your head, then turn to what feels most right.

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  12. like I said last post, we will always be here reading, you can always tell us.

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  13. I'm having some relationship problems myself. Women are a pain

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  14. Thanks for all the support guys. :)

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  15. Yeah. there was a quote from another bloggers page. "In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on. "

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  17. What lef said. Just keep on keepin on dude-man.

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  18. pleanty of fish in the see brah

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  19. Numb sounds familiar. Never been too good mapping out emotions.

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  20. Things do get better. They really do. Just keep it in your head, and go on with your hobbies. If you're feeling down, try walking outside--thirty minutes of walking outside is scientifically proven to improve your mood. Do something that uses physical exertion. Run a mile, if you do martial arts practice your kicks and punches, try out something new like learn some bboying, or play some games online with your friends, cap some asses in Halo/CoD/whatever FPS of choice. You just have to keep your own life going, and fill it out.

    When you break up with a girl, it feels like a chunk of you went away--because a chunk did. You've been spending so much time, and you know her so well and she knew you so well...so what you need to do when it's over is flesh out your own side again. Spend time with yourself and your friends. Find yourself again. Things will get better, and time heals everything.

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  21. Don't feel low man. We all go through shitty times of pain,just smoke a fat L and I'm sure life will move on.

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  22. there's not many words that can help you, so i'll keep it short. i just want u to know that you'll bounce back from this. i promise. time helps, too. stay strong, friend.

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  23. fuck, i dunno what to tell ya. hang in there.

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  24. You should def see a therapist or talk to someone about it.

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  25. I would just talk to a trustworthy friend or you could just get drunk and stuff.

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  26. Never talked to a therapist before,always went like "oh well whatever"

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  27. I never went to a therapist for relationship problems, just life problems in general, but they do help. You may want to look into it.

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  28. Every therapist is different. Some times you get one that doesn't quite click right with you and other times you get one that really hits where you need help.

    If you are having to take sleeping pills to relax and they aren't working then you really should get some sort of outside help. All I can say is that for now, lay off the pills and don't keep trying to use them.

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  29. i'm sorry man. it will get better.

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  30. A mediocre therapist WILL feed you "There's plenty of fish in the sea." A good one will smile, help you sort out what you're thinking (without adding anything in--just trying to interpret) and wait for you to reach the conclusion, yourself. You should definitely look into it. All people need therapy at one point or another in their life, I think.

    Super sorry about your girlfriends offing themselves. That's really messed up.

    :(

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